East Timor law allows emergency abortions

June 4th, 2009

Subject of abortion is very hot in each country and religion. In some countries, it is legal and in some not. Religious clerks have their own thinking while a normal man who do not want a family have different concept but “East Timor has approved a law allowing emergency abortions despite objections from the Catholic Church, whose members make up 95 percent of the population.”

The country’s parliament approved a penal code article dealing with abortion after discussions May 25-26, UCA News reports.

The law criminalises abortion but also says the life of a mother should be prioritized over the life of her unborn child in an emergency situation. These provisions were in the proposed legislation, but the lawmakers added that three doctors and the parents must agree “to extract an embryo from the mother.”

Maria Paixao, a Social-Democrat Party member of parliament, explained afterwards that extracting an embryo should “only be done to save the mother’s life, and if she is unconscious, the husband must agree.”

Paixao pointed out that because of the lack of doctors in rural areas, Section 9 of the newly passed Article 141 allows Health Ministry-accredited midwifes to perform an abortion.

Bishop Alberto Ricardo da Silva of Dili and Bishop Basilio do Nascimento of Baucau, who head the two Catholic dioceses that cover Timor Leste, observed the parliamentary deliberations. Earlier they told UCA News the Church in principle does not support the abortion law, because the Church position is that doctors should try to save both mother and baby in an emergency.

“We are against the law, as explained on our pastoral note from the two dioceses,” Bishop da Silva said.

The pastoral note in the Portuguese language, dated April 15 and signed by both bishops, cited various Church documents in affirming the sacred and inviolable nature of life from conception to death. It also asserted that this is in keeping with Timorese culture and that abortion is a violation of the basic human right to life.

The note appealed to social and political leaders to provide for the basic needs of mothers and children from the time of conception and for punishing those responsible for violence against woman and children.

Source: http://www.cathnews .com/article. aspx?aeid= 14190

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Cambodia women in health battle

June 1st, 2009

After Going through the following news, We are seriously thinking to do something for women health in Asian and Africal Countries especially for women as described in a news in Cambodia.

If you agree with us, suggest and help us in finding the ways. Women Associations are especially requested to come forward and help us.

In Cambodia , five women die every day because of inadequate health care during childbirth - making it a leading cause of death among women of child-bearing age.

Health centre

Cambodian villagers are encouraged to give birth in the local health centre

The government is trying to improve health services but it is proving a long slow process.

Lvea village, in north-western Cambodia, is a collection of wooden stilt-houses along a dirt track, hectic with dogs, piglets and chickens.

Most of the women here have been told to have their babies in the local health centre.

So when one woman, Low’t, went into labour recently with her ninth child, she made her way there too.

Sad but common story

Her neighbour, Ron, told me what happened:

“The delivery went well - but afterwards Low’t started to feel faint. She was losing blood.

“The health centre didn’t have the right medicine - so they went eight kilometres (5 miles) by trailer to a larger one.

“The midwife there couldn’t stop the bleeding either, and sent them to the hospital in the nearest town.

“They were still travelling, heading downriver by boat, when Low’t died.”

It’s a sad but common story.

Eighty per cent of Cambodia ’s population live in rural areas and the public health system is weak.

In recent years, the government has made it a priority to strengthen its network of trained midwives.

Villagers in Lvea

Most Cambodians live in rural areas, where the health system is not strong

They now attend more than half of all births - a significant increase.

Many local clinics function better, even if they’re still poorly equipped.

But midwives are paid very little - and can be distracted by running private businesses too.

In Lvea village, the women were cautious about criticising the midwives who tried but failed to save Low’t’s life.

But one woman made this plea to her government: “Please supply good quality medicine to the health centre so that it can help us.”

Progress is being made.

But for women like Low’t, it’s simply too little, too late.

By Jill McGivering BBC News, CambodiaSource:http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/asia-pacific/8075957.stm

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Thailand’s ‘Third Sex’ Wants Acceptance, Legal Support

May 31st, 2009

In Thailand, transgender males, also called lady-boys, are a common sight in cities and tourist areas. While many transgenders work in traditionally female professions such as in cabaret shows or Thailand’s notorious sex industry, most are looking for better integration in Thai society. But, despite their high visibility, transgenders still face challenges in seeking acceptance.

Transgenders are more visible and more accepted in Thai culture than in most parts of the world. Some believe this is a result of the Buddhist culture, which places a high value on tolerance.

Just before the competition, contestants and their teams are in the changing rooms, applying last-minute hairspray and lipstick and posing for the media.

Kotchakorn Surajan, 24, a competitor for this year’s crown, says while Thai society has become more accepting of transgenders, there is still a long way to go.

“I wish we would be more accepted in society nowadays. The reason I joined this contest is to tell society that we are human and we think just like normal, real men and real women,” said Kotchakorn Surajan

Despite Thailand’s reputation for sexual tolerance, transgenders still face ridicule and are discriminated against in the workplace.

Many transgenders have turned to prostitution, a tolerated but risky profession in Thailand, where less than one in three sex workers are educated about HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.

At a counseling center for transgenders in Pattaya, called Sisters, a group of transgenders sit on the entrance floor chopping a large papaya and green beans for a spicy salad.

Standing at a table just behind them are several more transgenders with long hair and wearing mini-skirts. They are mixing eggs, flour, and other ingredients into a blender to make cookies.

Sisters is Thailand’s first counselling service for transgenders, providing them with advice, support and activities such as cooking.

The walls of the center are decorated with posters promoting condom use and a table near the door is piled with pamphlets about safe sex.

On one wall, a series of framed photos shows the Sisters grand opening in 2005, which was attended by the mayor and blessed by a Bhuddist monk.

Neung, who like most Thais prefers to use a nickname, is Sisters outreach supervisor. Neung says there are close to 2,000 transgenders in Pattaya.

“We have many transgender working as sex worker,” said Neung. “Many kind of
transgender but nobody come to take care and teach them about protecting
themselves against HIV or STIs. That’s [why] we have to open the Sisters.”

As night falls, Neung and other members of Sisters take to the streets of Pattaya’s “hot zone,” where prostitution is an open trade.

The group wears a signature pink T-shirt with the slogan ‘Sisters, where our second home is.’

They distribute education materials and condoms to transgenders and encourage them to visit the drop-in centre.

Many of Pattaya’s transgenders are not accepted by their relatives and Sisters is the closest thing they have to family.

Prempreeda Pramoj Na Ayutthaya, a researcher on transgender issues and is also a transgender, says if they are truly to be accepted the Thai government must offer them more specific legal protections.

“Every policy and funding which is try to support transgender need to separate transgender from gay or male who have sex with male. Of course, if we focus in terms of biological sex, transgender is a male as well,” said Prempreeda Pramoj Na Ayutthaya. “But, if policy focused on the male who have sex with male and maybe activity might not go so far from the term ‘male’. But, the life of transgender is go beyond the term male. Even it’s not might fit to the term female, but we have another way of life.”

Prem says Thai authorities have taken some steps towards improving the rights of transgenders and to recognize them as separate and distinct from homosexuals.

But what Transgenders really want is the right to legally change their gender to female so their ID cards and documents can match the way they feel and appear.

A change in the law would also allow transgenders in Thailand to get married, which is currently prohibited between two men.

Source: http://www.voanews.com, Written by: By Daniel Schearf, Pattaya, Bangkok

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Does God Favor Sexual Predators?

May 30th, 2009

If you take a look at The New York Post, Fox News, and The Weekly Standard, you’ll get a pretty good sense of who Rupert Murdock is and what he cares about.

Now imagine one very powerful figure is the CEO of three competing companies, each with thousands of administrators, tens of thousands of employees, and millions of investors. All three of these companies have global reach into every corner of power and influence, from the smallest village to the largest cities. And every one of them routinely, consistently, and unapologetically abuses children sexually.

What can we conclude about this CEO?

Despite their war-generating differences, Catholicism, Judaism, and Islam share a strange and shameful propensity to abuse children.

Coming on the heels of revelations about thousands of children abused by Catholic priests in the U.S. in recent decades, Ireland is now reeling after a government commission concluded that students at more than 200 Catholic schools were molested and/or subjected to sadistic punishment for some sixty years, while “a culture of silence” protected the abusers and perpetuated these crimes against the innocent. Same story as in the U.S.: abusers shuffled around to new schools when/if parents dared to complain.

“Extreme punishment was a feature of the boys’ schools. Prolonged, excessive beatings with implements intended to cause maximum pain occurred with the knowledge of staff management,” the report says.

Over 12,000 people have already been compensated by the Irish Government, with thousands more cases in process.

The American Jewish community has its own child abuse scandal (and cover-up). Also unresolved are issues surrounding the traditional Orthodox practice of removing post-circumcision blood from the infant’s penis by sucking it away – a practice that has led to several infants in New York contracting herpes from the mohel – with at least one of them dying as a result.

Whatever your thoughts concerning male circumcision, it’s hard to argue that it’s not abusive in the sense that circumcision is certainly (in most cases) unnecessary surgery performed without the consent of the patient. Some recent research suggests there may be some protective effects to male circumcision (less likely to contract HIV and genital herpes), but I know of no such claims regarding the clitorectomies common in many parts of the Muslim world.

It’s worth thinking about why the sexual victimization of children is shared by (at least) three of the world’s major religions.

By Christopher Ryan in Sex at Dawn

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Children and contemporary marriages

May 29th, 2009

The decision whether or when to become a parent involves many complicated matters. Considering the time, money, and the endless love one is to give and the responsibilities that lie behind bringing up one’s children, indeed, it is worth spending some time planning the future before the task is taken on.

As a young man approaching my thirties in a steady relationship, I have begun to think and plan about marriage as well as whether or when to have children more critically.

I am filled with many unanswered questions such as: How will I strike a balance between personal goals and obligations to the children? What makes a good parent? What kind of financial planning will be needed to bring up children nowadays? I intend in this written project, to analyze data gathered from recent research on marriages and children, to evaluate the amount of time, money and love one is likely to be dedicating as well as receiving, when raising children in a contemporary marriage. And hopefully, this project will offer some insights and suggestions to people like me who are seriously thinking and planning with a view to marriage as well as whether or when to have children.

Source: http://ivythesis.typepad.com/

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Children and marriages

May 6th, 2009

If you live with your partner or have a marriage when you have to decide whether or when to have children. Considering the time, money, and the endless love, you have to decide and feel the responsibilities that you have to face in bringing up one’s children and this will take certainly some time in planning the future before the task is taken on.

As a young man, when I was in thirties in a marriage relationship, I have begun to think and plan about marriage as well as whether or when to have children more critically.

After the marriage I have many unanswered questions being in a social and cultural society where parents expect that after one year of marriage you should have a child and if it is not, then so many doubts rise between the relationship and medical condition of both partners but if I am in a European Country, I will consider marriage or partnership such as:

  • Can I have a balance between personal goals and obligations to the children in early stage?
  • Either I have the resources to bring up my children and their study?
  • How I will prove myself, a good parent?

In most developing countries, no such planning is required as mostly married couples have belief that if God will give us children, He will manage every thing for his creation but in developed countries, couples like to have relations before marriage and mostly have children before marriage and after some years, they have legal marriage, may be it is due to taxes or a culture has developed now. Those women have the jobs or have some specific goals of life, they rarely have the children.

What you think, have your comments?


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Wife faces trial over ‘noisy sex’

April 28th, 2009
A news appeared on http://news.uk.msn.com/odd-news/ describe a wonderful story as “A woman accused of tormenting her neighbours with her noisy love-making has appeared in court.
Caroline Cartwright, 48, was remanded in custody until May 5 charged with three breaches of her Asbo in ten days.
Magistrates in Sunderland slapped her with a four-year order on April 17, banning her from “making excessive noise” anywhere in England.
But Houghton le Spring Magistrates’ Court heard that police arrested her on April 18, April 22 and April 26 after neighbours complained she was flouting the ban with the help of husband Steve.
Prosecutor Claire Ward said there were complaints of early morning shouting, moaning, groaning and the sound of a bed banging against the wall. Cartwright was arrested on Sunday and charged with three counts of breaching her Asbo.
Cartwright, of Hall Road, Concord, Washington, Tyne and Wear, whose husband sat in the public gallery, elected trial by jury and her case will be transferred to Newcastle Crown Court.
A bail application from defence solicitor Peter Lothian was refused.
Cartwright was remanded in custody and ordered to appear via video link before Sunderland Magistrates’ Court on May 5.
On April 17, she was convicted for five breaches of an abatement notice and fined a total of £515.
Magistrates also imposed the Asbo, banning her from making excessive noise, knocking, shouting, screaming or vocalisation that can be heard in neighbouring properties or outside the house, and playing loud music.”
http://news.uk.msn.com/odd-news/article.aspx?cp-documentid=16400564&ocid=today

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Why Should Pay Attention?

April 23rd, 2009

When ever you ask to some person or get advice from some expert, he will advise you to “Pay Attention” to your health, job, wife, children or what else may . What is attention?

“Few things are as important to your quality of life as your choices about how to spend the precious resource of your free time,” writes Winifred Gallagher, author of the new book Rapt. There are things you can’t control: the family you are born into or your genes, for example. But that’s not important. What is important is what you attend to, those things or people you consciously choose to set your mind on. Defined in the broadest sense of the word, “attention” and focus” can extend to anything. Are you focused on living in the now and not chewing on your sad past? Can you attend to the feelings of others, even if it means rising above your own? Can you be a fully engaged person in your short time on Earth? It’s a rather large task, but the rewards, Gallagher suggests, are boundless. (“See Michelle Obama’s Fashion Diplomacy.”)

Highlight Reel:

1. On how therapy may actually be making us miserable: “Since Freud, most forms of therapy have maintained that the best way to deal with a problem or trauma is to concentrate on it. Through this ‘processing,’ the theory goes, you’ll eventually gain insight and feel wiser, and hopefully better. Accordingly, most people … think they’re more or less obliged to chew over a breakup or career reversal … [Yet], directing your attention away from a negative experience … can be a superior coping strategy.”

2. On why big purchases aren’t always the best purchases: “Despite your initial excitement and a high price tag, adaptation guarantees that your focus will soon stray from the wondrous pleasures of your new computer or larger apartment, consigning them to mere comfort status. Rather than binging on such big, costly amenities, a better — and cheaper — strategy for boosting your daily satisfaction quotient would be to add many more simple, inexpensive ones … After all, on any given Monday morning, your comfortable bank balance pales beside a good cup of coffee.”

3. On the road to a meaningful life: “Deciding what to pay attention to for this hour, day, week, or year, much less a lifetime, is a peculiarly human predicament, and your quality of life largely depends on how you handle it … We must resist the temptation to drift along, reacting to whatever happens to us next, and deliberately select targets, from activities to relationships, that are worthy of our finite supplies of time and attention.”

The Lowdown:

It’s a simple point, but one that is easily lost in our post-modern, hyper-modern, super-modern age: pay attention. Do this — in everything you do, with everyone you encounter — and you will reap the benefits. Think you’re a great multi-tasker? You’re not. No one is. Step away from the computer. Did you just break up with the love of your life? Don’t be fooled into thinking that over analyzing past hurts is a good thing. It isn’t. You’re bringing yourself down, dude. Attend to something new.

Gallagher does an admirable job of getting attention’s attention from every angle — relationships, work, play — using both science and philosophy. Yet underneath it all is that hippie dippy mantra, “Be here now.” And while Gallagher’s theme may ultimately be nothing more than a familiar ’70s message repacked in prestigious new millennial clothes, it bears repeating. Now stop reading this and go pay attention to something important! (extracts from: www.time.com/time/arts/articles/)

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Older Women And Their Responsibilities To Their Man

April 19th, 2009

It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there’s nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.

My name is Joe. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Bev. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Bev to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.

Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner.  I don’t yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men’s Grill at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I’m ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it’s not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner.

I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won’t clean themselves.  I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take ‘em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement.  I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won’t have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn’t hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods.  She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard.  I try not to make a scene.  I’m a fair man.  I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while.  And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Bev. I’m not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.  Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible!  Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older.  However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

written by Joe,  source:www.findamaturewoman.com

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Men Shouldn’t Be Overlooked as Victims of Partner Violence

April 15th, 2009

In dating issues, when partners live together, mishaps of violence occurs sometimes but who is the victim, a research report discloses as following:

“In addressing intimate partner violence, the focus is usually on women who are physically battered by husbands or boyfriends. However, women sometimes hurt their partners as well.

Women are doing virtually everything these days that men are—working as doctors, lawyers, and rocket scientists; flying helicopters in combat; riding horses in the Kentucky Derby. And physically assaulting their spouses or partners.

In fact, when it comes to nonreciprocal violence between intimate partners, women are more often the perpetrators.

These findings on intimate partner violence come from a study conducted by scientists at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). The lead investigator was Daniel Whitaker, Ph.D., a behavioral scientist and team leader at the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control (which is part of the CDC). Results were published in the May Journal of Public Health.

In 2001, the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health attempted to amass data about the health of a nationally representative sample of 14,322 individuals between the ages of 18 and 28. The study also asked subjects to answer questions about romantic or sexual relationships in which they had engaged during the previous five years and whether those relationships had involved violence.

Of those subjects, 11,370 reported having had heterosexual relationships and also provided answers to the violence-related questions. So Whitaker and his colleagues decided to use the responses from these 11,370 subjects for a study into how much violence is experienced in intimate heterosexual partner relationships, who the instigators are, and whether physical harm accrues from the violence.

The 11,370 subjects, Whitaker and his colleagues found, reported on 18,761 relationships, of which 76 percent had been nonviolent and 24 percent violent. That almost a quarter of the subjects had engaged in violent relationships may seem high to some people, but “the rates we found are similar to those of other studies of late adolescents and young adults, a time period when interpersonal-violence rates are at their highest,” Whitaker told Psychiatric News. Also, he added, “these rates demonstrate the magnitude of interpersonal violence as a health and social problem.”

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Furthermore, Whitaker discovered, of the 24 percent of relationships that had been violent, half had been reciprocal and half had not. Although more men than women (53 percent versus 49 percent) had experienced nonreciprocal violent relationships, more women than men (52 percent versus 47 percent) had taken part in ones involving reciprocal violence.

Regarding perpetration of violence, more women than men (25 percent versus 11 percent) were responsible. In fact, 71 percent of the instigators in nonreciprocal partner violence were women. This finding surprised Whitaker and his colleagues, they admitted in their study report.

As for physical injury due to intimate partner violence, it was more likely to occur when the violence was reciprocal than nonreciprocal. And while injury was more likely when violence was perpetrated by men, in relationships with reciprocal violence it was the men who were injured more often (25 percent of the time) than were women (20 percent of the time). “This is important as violence perpetrated by women is often seen as not serious,” Whitaker and his group stressed.

Of the study’s numerous findings, Whitaker said, “I think the most important is that a great deal of interpersonal violence is reciprocally perpetrated and that when it is reciprocally perpetrated, it is much more likely to result in injury than when perpetrated by only one partner.”

The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, upon which this investigation was based, was funded by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development with co-funding from 17 other federal agencies.”

An abstract of “Differences in Frequency of Violence and Reported Injury Between Relationships With Reciprocal and Nonreciprocal Intimate Partner Violence” is posted at <www.ajph.org/cgi/content/abstract/97/5/941>.

A Clinical & Research News by Joan Arehart-Treichel

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Women Rules

April 3rd, 2009

What’s up with “women rules?” Recently I was looking at some online profiles of women, and they had all these rules and regulations. Now, I’m not saying men don’t have rules and regulations either, so don’t get your panties in a knot too quickly. Women have rules though, and we’re going to talk about women rules today.

Maybe we’ll talk about man rules another time . . . I’m even going to tease you a little bit about the man rules discussion we’ll have down the line. One of the most famous and ridiculous man rules that men have, is that a woman must be in perfect shape even when a man is fat. So, that’s a ridiculous man rule. More later on those . . .

But what about a ridiculous women rule? Women tend to expect too much. I was reading a woman’s profile tonight, in which she states as follows:

“The perfect first date must be a dinner that’s been planned out. I really love intimate restaurants. And the perfect second date is a continuation of the first date, where we go to another restaurant and we get to know each other more. And the third date is another retaurant, because I want to get to know them again in a neutral surrounding.”

This woman has a three restaurant rule? I mean that’s one of the craziest things I’ve seen online yet! I mean really . . . a three restaurant rule? What happens if the guy says “Let’s go to the zoo” or “Let’s take our dogs for a walk.” You know, something spontaneous in the moment. But no . . . this woman has all these rules and regulations.

If you have rules and regulations in dating that are this rigid, you’re never going to be able to meet someone who is different and interesting because people have to play by your rules. And most people who have to play by other people’s rules, tend to be weak people. A woman like this that has all these rules, tends to be a rigid person. Rigid and weak don’t get along very well.

So, if you’re a rigid person online, and you have all these ridiculous rules that you write in your profile that you carry into real-world dating, you’d better start reevaluating things really quickly.

Because if you do this, you’re not going to experience the fun of dating.

I don’t even enjoy dating as many people define it . . . I love to hang out and enjoy somebody in different situations. I like to invite someone along to things I enjoy, and in turn they can invite me along for stuff they enjoy. For instance, I recently had a first date - and it wasn’t even really a date because it was just kind of a hang out. I asked this woman to join me at an art gallery. So we walked around the gallery. I asked another woman to hang out with my dog and I.

It’s about being in the moment and being present. Because the whole point is to have a conversation with someone and to connect with them, without the rigid pressures of sitting in a restaurant, interviewing each other and swapping resumes.

So for those of you that are very rigid in your life, and very rigid with your rules - and you know who I’m talking about because if you’re reading this and it’s resonating with you or you’re listening to this and it’s resonating with you - what’s going to happen is that you’re going to realize that there’s a lot of life that you’re missing.

How about the women who get online and they’ll only date men who are between the ages of 36 and 38 . . . and they’re 36? To those women, I would ask “How did you come up with 38? Did you just add two and figure a two year maximum age difference was good? What if the guy is 41? How about if he’s 43?” And what if the 43 year old guy was great, and you’re totally attracted to him. Would you cut him off because of the age? Would you not date him because he is seven years older than you instead of two years older than you?

Think about what you might be missing by adhering to such rigid rules. Some women have very rigid rules, but so do men. We’ll talk about men’s rigid rules another day.

Source: www.areyoualone.com

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How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating

April 3rd, 2009

Cheating spouses provide much of the work and income of most private investigators, and every PI has developed his list of “tell tale signs of a cheating spouse.” Here’s a list derived from articles by private detectives Bob Brown and Edmund J. Pankau, and female private detective Victoria Frelow of Scotland Yard Investigations (no, it’s not that Scotland Yard).
Note that though I’ve phrased these points in terms of the husband as the cheater, most also apply when it’s the wife who’s cheating.
From Bob Brown –
- At the beginning of an affair, the husband may actually be more affectionate than usual due to guilt feelings.
- Later, after the affair has been going on awhile, he often starts finding fault with the wife as a defensive mechanism (i.e., to justify the affair in his mind).
- Cheating husbands often lose interest in domestic activities, such as spending time with the kids, fixing up the house, lawn care, etc.
- Cheating husbands may have a change in sexuality (i.e., more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.
- The cheater’s relationship with his family will almost always change, that is, he will tend to become more distant, cold, or fault-finding (i.e., he starts to blame the family, especially the wife, for his behavior).
- Financial changes may become noticeable. The wife may notice unexplained credit card charges or withdrawals from the family’s checking account.
- Grooming habits change. A cheating husband may buy a new wardrobe or a lot of new clothes, or may just suddenly start to become more attentive to his personal appearance. The wife may notice frequent bathing, more careful grooming, a new cologne, a new exercise program, etc.
- Physical clues to the affair may start appearing, such as lipstick on shirt collars, perfume odors on shirts or jackets, secretion stains on underwear. Or the wife may discover pieces of paper with notes or phone numbers, unexplained match books, receipts, condoms, etc.
- The husband’s driving pattern may change. The wife may find the car needs gas more often than before or she may monitor the car’s odometer and find the husband is putting a lot of unexplained miles on the car. Brown recommends that suspicious wives keep track of the mileage on their husband’s car and even monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. “Keep a calendar and note the times,” he says. “This should help establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.”
- On occasion, the wife may notice her husband whispering into the phone. He may look alarmed when he sees her observing him and may hang up suddenly. There may be abrupt hang ups when she answers the phone herself. (Want to know who called? If you have touch tone dialing in most parts of the U.S. you can dial *69 to get the number.) (1471 in the UK- Editor)
- The wife may find unexplained, repetitive charges on her husband’s mobile phone bill. Often these will be calls her husband made right after leaving home in the morning and right before coming home in the evening. According to Brown and most other PI’s, the mobile telephone bill is one of the best ways to catch a cheating husband. Try calling your husband’s cell phone company to get additional details about mysterious calls. The reason is that the bill for mobile services lists every single call made (unlike a bill for conventional phone services, which list only long distance charges). Thus, if you suspect your husband is cheating, and he doesn’t have a mobile phone, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to buy him one.
- Brown comments that “Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover. This is most likely because of their concern about sexually transmitted diseases. Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship than a `one night stand.’ In past years men were the aggressors; in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.” He also mentions that “When a female is having an affair she tends to have more of a `glow’ about her.” (Presumably, when a guy is having an affair, he doesn’t have the glow.)
From Ed Pankau –
The following are possible indications of a cheating husband, says Ed Pankau:
- Hair gets longer
- Clothes get flashier
- Changes cologne
- Boxer shorts become bikini underwear
- Joins a health club
- Starts a diet
Watch for any changes in his “pattern” of living, says Pankau; this can alert you to the fact that a new partner or relationship has entered his life. Among the specific changes to watch for –
1. He changes cologne, clothes, or switches from boxer shorts to bikini underwear.
2. His daily travel (driving) pattern changes
3. He becomes hard to reach at the office or on the road and starts coming home at unusual times
4. His spending patterns change; you find unexplained charges on credit card bills or phone bills (especially by mobile phone bills).
If you become aware your husband is cheating you should consider following up with targeted surveillance during unaccountable times, advises Pankau. “Through the conduct of thousands of divorce cases, I have found three main areas of investigation common to these matters: background, financial, and child custody investigations,” he says. “Each of these investigations has a specific goal and requires the proof of different facts.”
From Victoria Frelow –
“There are several ways to recognize and catch a disloyal partner,” says Frelow. “It is usually discovered with a sudden change in behavior. For example, your partner wants to go places alone, or he or she doesn’t show any true affection or have a sexual appetite. Your partner stays out late with unexpected meetings, or receives pages in the middle of the night. The home is inundated with strange phone calls coupled with whispered conversations, or your partner suddenly panics and hangs up the phone when you enter the room.
“Also be aware of any close platonic relationships. Most friends will not approve of the cheater’s ways but will remain very dependable. Some friends will actually help the cheater get out of the home and will often provide an iron-clad alibi for the cheater. Don’t get upset or blame the friend for his/her part in the plan. You must understand although it is difficult, that the cheater’s buddy will assist the cheater out of loyalty. This emotion usually stems from a long lasting or childhood friendship…
“What can we do to catch cheating spouses? First of all, the cheater must not know that you suspect him/her. Although it is difficult, you must still treat the cheater the same way as you did prior to suspecting him/her of cheating. Give the cheater plenty of room to hang himself/herself, don’t try to interfere with the cheating behavior. If you suspect the cheater is actually cheating at home while you’re away, make false plans to be away one weekend and stay at a local hotel. Park down the street from your residence, then watch and wait. But before you try some of these suggestions, make sure you are willing to accept the consequences without violence. Have a plan as to what you intend to do if your suspicions are indeed confirmed.”
Frelow is very emphatic about the need to avoid violence in these situations at all costs.
“I cannot emphasize enough the importance of not resorting to physical violence,” she says. “You run the possibility of having criminal charges filed against you, an arrest record, possible jail time, as well as a fine, which will only increase your pain. IT ISN’T WORTH IT!”
Written by Joseph Ryan, Private Investigator
Source: www.allthatwomenwant.com

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EIGHT WORDS WOMEN USE

March 26th, 2009
(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’).

(8) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to # 3.

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Dating Tips for Men

March 21st, 2009

I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.

I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice…” but I didn’t know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn’t get another chance.

Here’s what I do now:

If I’ve been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she’s ready to be kissed, I’ll reach over and touch her hair while we’re talking and make a comment about it. I’ll say “Your hair looks so soft” and just touch the tips of it.

If she smiles and likes this, I’ll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she’s ready to be kissed.

By using “The Kiss Test” I’ve been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven’t given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she’s ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out…

Here are a few of the other things you will have to learn…

  • The difference between how men and women think about dating - and why most women want to keep you from being successful.
  • How to use “secret” body language to keep a woman’s attention.
  • How to approach a new woman that you’d like to meet - and exactly what to say to  start a conversation without “pick up lines”.

Source: www.daviddeangelo.com

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Benefits of Online Dating

March 21st, 2009

Though there have been forms of online dating occurring since the beginning the internet, there was initially a strong social stigma associated with it. People who dated online were thought to be strange, socially inept, or otherwise undesirable people that were resorting to an extreme measure to find dates. However, in the middle of the 1990s online dating became more popular, a wave that culminated with a movie starring Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan called  You have Got Mail released in 1998. As of 2006, the stigma of online dating has all but disappeared, and it is widely regarded as an practical , intelligent and effective way of meeting people for dates, relationships, and even marriage.

There are many benefits to online dating compared to meeting people by chance or at a bar, night club, or party. Users of an online dating site can browse profiles of potential dates prior to communicating with them. This offers an element of selectivity that bars, and other traditional meeting places lack. In a live social setting, you are limited to the people present in the room, and may be engaged in a conversation by someone you have no interest in. Likewise, there is the ever-present fear of rejection in live scenarios. Online, it is much easier to say hello to people you may have otherwise been too nervous to approach. Additionally, there are many thousands more people to choose from, and you can select from people in any location in the country.

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I never Give up Hope

February 19th, 2009

To bring real change in people life first means bringing real change in ones own. I firmly believe that through offering sincere good wishes, good company and showing real care for people creates an atmosphere that can allow change in anyone.

You can too have good hopes but never forget the other tules.

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Best Ideas to Celeberate the Valentine Day

February 10th, 2009

valentineEvery February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday?

The history of Valentine’s Day — and its patron saint — is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition.

So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young, single men — his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.

According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first ‘valentine’ greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor’s daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed ‘From your Valentine,’ an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It’s no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.

One of the least romantic days of the year is Valentine’s Day. Yes you heard me correctly. The majority of men act like robots, purchasing flowers and chocolate for their sweethearts because that is what everyone else is doing. Many people celebrate the day out of obligation rather than celebration.

Valentine’s Day Activities

Valentines Day is no more a day meant only for the couples. The concept of this special day has broadened its sphere, to include all your loved ones. It is the time to nurture all the special relationships in your life, be it with your parents, siblings, friends or partner. Whether you are a couple or a single, don’t ever let this single day to pass as a futile one. There are numerous activities which you can indulge in and tell your loved ones how much you care. It is obvious that if there is special person in your life, the activity or the treatment will be a different one. Here, we bring you a list of ideas for Valentines Day activities, for couples as well as singles.

Valentine’s Day Activity Ideas

  • If you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with that ’special someone’, a great idea is to prepare the food of his/her choice and surprise with a candlelit dinner.
  • You can always plan a picnic on Valentine’s Day, whether it with your partner, friends or family members. Go to some place that is surrounded by lush greenery and enjoy a fun-filled day.
  • If you are single and don’t even have your friends or family members with you, the best way to celebrate your Valentine’s Day is to go to some old age homes or orphanage, with some gifts and sweets.
  • In case you are married and have, kids try to spend the day with them by planning an outing. It will be a great idea to have a fun filled day with your family, complete with kids.
  • Going out for shopping with your partner and buying the gifts of his/her choice is an exciting way of celebrating your Valentine’s Day.

The idea of partying is yet another excellent way of celebrating your Valentines Day with your friends. Try to surprise your partner of family members with a bash in the evening, with all your close friends invited.

How To Celebrate Your Relationship Thoughts and deeds to truly show you care for each day of this month

    It’s not just the things that we say, but the things we do in the name of love that define its meaning. And luckily, Valentine’s Day offers us the perfect opportunity to do so—it’s the one day a year that reminds us to do all of the thoughtful and romantic things we should do every day.

    Valentine’s Day is all about love and affection, but oftentimes we find that just one day is not enough to truly show the depth of our feelings. In order to keep those feelings of love and appreciation lasting the entire month of February, here are some tips to help you express your love.

    1. Look through old photo albums together, or your wedding video
    2. Go out and play in the snow – snowball fight, sledding, ice skating, or just a walk. Enjoy the winter wonderland.
    3. Leave a lipstick kiss on the mirror, kitchen window, or any other any frequent traffic area where your love will see it and smile.
    4. Share a pot of tea and enjoy a nice conversation.
    5. Try cooking your loved one’s favorite meal from a restaurant.
    6. Sneak a sweet note into their lunch or briefcase so that they will smile and think of you when they find it.
    7. Give them a box of candy conversation hearts or another nostalgic Valentine’s Day candy.
    8. Take a jar and write down all of the things you both have said you would like to do – seeing a play, having a picnic, or learning to play chess. From time to time, pull an item from the jar and enjoy the activity together.
    9. Go ahead and give into the spirit of the holiday by writing them a poetic love note and seal it with a kiss.
    10. Do something that really suites their interests versus your shared interests, such as watching a sporting event together or going to hear a talk about local wildlife.
    11. Host a board game night. Sometimes a little friendly competition can be a nice change of pace.
    12. Show special care by making fancy dessert that you’ve never attempted before.
    13. Hit the gym together for a little healthy activity and to blow off some workweek steam.
    14. Watch some old romantic movies together.
    15. Make and bring them breakfast in bed.
    16. Write your special someone a sweet message and place it in a bottle.
    17. Leave a loving note or candy on their pillow.
    18. Learn something new together, such as signing up for ballroom dance lessons or a cooking class.
    19. Schedule a double date with friends you don’t see often.
    20. Go and listen to live music together or see a play.
    21. Surprise your loved one with a pampering spa night.
    22. Send a flirty e-card during the day to offer an unexpected smile.
    23. Make a coupon book filled with
    24. Make an old fashioned valentine, complete with red hearts, doilies, and rhyming verse.
    25. Light candles for dinner as often as possible, even if it’s just for pizza.
    26. Start a journal to pass back and forth, writing down fond memories, funny stories, and expressions of love and appreciation.
    27. Make a toast to them at dinner.
    28. Tell them that you love them every single day.

    But if you want to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a different way? We’ve collected a bunch of unique ideas - special ways to show how much you care about your spouse, family members and friends you cherish.

    1. Make up a batch of heart-shaped pancakes for a yummy Valentine’s breakfast or brunch. Just pour the batter in the frying pan in a free-form heart shape and serve with strawberries and whipped cream.

    2. Insert candy surprises into balloons before inflating them - add a folded-up Valentine’s message then inflate each balloon. Tie with a red ribbon and attach to your loved one’s chair for them to find Valentine’s morning.

    3. Have the children help you prepare red Jello with cinnamon hearts mixed in, mashed potatoes colored with pink food coloring, heart-
    shaped cookies and any other creative ways to present your Valentine’s Day meal.

    4. Give a hand-made coupon for some work you can do to free-up some time for your spouse or parent. For example, a coupon good for
    cleaning Dad’s garage or for a full-house vacuuming for your wife. How about a coupon for your best friend - you can walk her dog or baby sit one evening.

    5. Each of you can create individual notes, say 4 or 6 each, to describe a special surprise - a back rub, a bubble bath, kisses from head to toe, a special meal - fold up the notes and toss them into a jar. You can take turns having fun plucking a coupon from the jar and doing what it says.

    6. You can prepare this one for your spouse or for your children to enjoy. Write up little notes about how you feel and what they
    mean to you and place them around the house along with a candy heart or other treat. Add a riddle at the end of each note about
    where to find the next note. At the last note, have something special waiting there. For example, you can be waiting for your
    hubby in a candle-lit bubble bath with two glasses of wine. For your children, then can find a teddy bear or other toy or treat.

    7. Visit a hospital or chronic care home to pass out small Valentine surprises to the residents. They will enjoy the care and
    attention from something so unexpected.

    8. No one special to share Valentine’s Day with? Sure you have! You Why not pamper yourself with a candlelit bubble bath, then prepare your favorite gourmet meal and rent the latest comedy video. Or treat yourself to a day at the spa, or a day at the gym with a step or aerobics class. Plan for Valentine’s Day at least a week in advance - you’ll find yourself looking forward to your special treats and your quality time with yourself, by choice.

    9. Place a blanket on the floor near the lit fireplace with candles on the mantle and have your Valentine’s meal as a candle-lit
    picnic with a bottle of your favorite bubbly.

    10. Little notes in their lunch boxes, on the bathroom mirror, in his briefcase, stuck on the car windshields, in his underwear drawer I’m fortunate to have you!

    11. Make sure you wear old clothes for this one and plan this escapade where cleanup will be easy (no carpets, please!) Make up a batch of chocolate pudding. Feed each other and wind up having a food fight! Ideally, this is more fun in your birthday suits, then the pudding won’t go to waste where it lands! (smile) Guaranteed for loads of giggles between the two of you - take a shower-for-two after this one and wash each other’s
    chocolate-flavored hair!

    12. Take turns writing a love letter or love poem to each other. Read them out loud

    13. Plan some community work - help out at the local shelter, volunteer at your local church, work with other volunteers to spread some caring amongst your community.

    14. Spend some quality fun time with your niece or nephew or other child in your family.

    15. Call your favorite aunt whom you haven’t seen since she moved far away, or your best friend who transferred to another country let them know you’re thinking of them this Valentine’s Day

    16. Have you wanted that delicate pair of earrings for awhile but kept putting off the purchase? Give yourself a special Valentine’s Day gift

    17. Write him or her a poem - can’t write? Try out the poem generator on http://www.whimsies-online.com/valentine.htm for fun! Print out your creation and place it on your loved-one’s night table for when they awake!

    Remember That A Relationship Doesn’t Define Who You Are

    Just like when someone asks you what you do for a living, the same goes for your relationship status: whatever your situation, it isn’t the end-all explanation of who you are as a person. Being single isn’t something to be ashamed of, and whether or not you are in a relationship doesn’t say anything about who you are as a person.

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    Send me Flowers on Valentine day

    February 10th, 2009

    Valentine day is celebrated in all most all over the world but there are still some countries, I mean developing countries where there is no concept of Valentine Day. IN some countries where religious restrictions are dominant, you cannot celebrate it openly. Each country have its own traditions of love and have different forms to disclose it.

    I received an email from a girl living in a developing country with comments on this website and to write for her on Valentine day as she cannot celebrate it due to some restrictions. She loves someone but cannot present flowers to her lover. She cannot disclose her emotions in front of her parents.

    I know the tradition and cultures of some countries where such girls are helpless and cannot celebrate this day. Certainly if she cannot send flowers, she cannot receive it too. I cannot disclose her email or address so other can send flower to her but can only say “Our readers can send her flowers in shape of Prays and best wishes.”

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    Love me because….

    February 8th, 2009

    Each boy or girls in this world when get some matured, he/ she feels some affections to get and be touched and glued with some opposite sex who can listen to him /her. What you will name these emotions or feelings? Whatever you give the name but I will give the name “LOVE”.

    The same is the nature of mature and elder persons. When they become alone or sad, they need sympathy. Sometimes this sympathy is so fruitfull that it planted as LOVE.

    Whatever the form love is, it is natural and certainly you will need to…!

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    Some Interesting and Basic things that what is women’s psychology

    February 8th, 2009

    It needs to be understood and is an essential step in order to become successful.  It is not something that has been taught to you in school or friends, so be prepared to realise useful (even controversial) facts about women.

    If you listen to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN. And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard it is to find good men to date…

    I’ve got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on - or do they loathe it? If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it – may be even love it - you’re well on your way to experiencing massive success with da ladies.

    ASD is an oft-used term in the seduction community This is an acronym for Anti-Slut Defense. The idea behind this is that a woman will resist anything that makes her feel easy. This is a common misunderstanding of women…

    Women don’t like or enjoy sex as much as you do. Is there anyone who still believes this? Read an issue of Cosmopolitan or watch an episode of Sex and the City, and you’ll know what’s up. When you’re fighting hard for that tiny little bang (which is supposed to be your orgasm) while your girl has just gone off for the third time in a row, it makes you wonder who really enjoys sex more, right?

    Do you think that whether a girl likes you or not is a matter of some magical connection or “luck”? Well, it is. But the good news is that you can learn to use this to your advantage.

    The hardest thing for us human beings to do is CHANGE. Even if the behaviour we constantly engage in is NOT natural, and even if it’s harmful for us, such as overeating, it is tormenting for us to stop our habits.

    Many guys will dislike this, because it implies that women are sluts and untrustworthy. Well, I can only speak from my experience and report back what I’ve seen. I’m also posting in a semi-satirical tone - I haven’t gone off the deep end….. yet… :) stages of picking up and seducing women.

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    Speed Dating Science

    February 8th, 2009

    Recently I was studying about speed dating, a “research that has shown that people make important first impressions about other people within a few seconds after talking to them. A 4-minute speed date may seem short but the first minute of the speed date is what really counts. Finally, meeting a new partner is a numbers game. If you attend a speed dating event you will normally have around 20 speed dates, meeting 20 single people. Yet at a normal party, you might just talk to a couple of people. The more single people you meet, the more likely it is that you will meet your perfect partner.

    Speed dating was invented by a Jewish rabbi, Yaacov Deyo, who came up with the concept of the speed date to help single people in his community in Los Angeles to meet, date and marry. His speed date idea caught on very quickly and soon became the most popular dating method for single people across America and Europe. The concept of speed dating, also spelt speedating and speedating, was hugely facilitated by the internet, online marketing and e-commerce.

    Contrary to what many people initially believed, it is extremely difficult to consistently organise successful speed dating events. Many speed dating companies come and go and Swiftdater is one of the few to remain organising speed dating events. For example, in Richmond in the last few years 20 other speed dating companies have come and gone. Running a speed dating company is a 100 times more than just getting group of single men and single women together for one evening.  There are many complexities involved, ie marketing, optimisation, advertising, customer service, website ease, dealing with a variety of venues to name a few.  We are proud to say that we are still standing and that our speed dating events continue to have many success stories.

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    Why end your relationship?

    January 14th, 2009
    In these days couples move in together from their parent houses, the reason may be any one. Some do it considering that they do not want to be burden on their parents and some think it makes their life easier, no restrictions or questions from mother or father side and  others do it because they hope it will lead to a marriage.  A survey shows following statistics, couples living  living together may not just mean a few cool trips to Bed, Bath and Beyond but the trends of living which are changing in western countries especially.
    •After 5 to 7 years , 21 percent of cohabitating couples have yet to marry
    •The likelihood of a first marriage ending in divorce after five years is 20 percent
    •The likelihood of a couple breaking up after cohabitating for five years is 49 percent

    Make sure it doesn’t happen to you. If you plan to live with someone do it for the right reasons, and don’t pretend you don’t know them.

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    Dating, Drinking and Religion

    January 2nd, 2009

    We can define “Freedom” as the condition of being free of restraints, Liberty of the person from slavery, detention, or oppression may be ‘Political independence’ or ‘Exemption from the arbitrary exercise of authority in the performance of a specific action; civil liberty’. This Exemption may be from an unpleasant or onerous condition: (freedom from want) or  

    1.  The capacity to exercise choice; free will: We have the freedom to do as we please all afternoon.

    2.  Ease or facility of movement: loose sports clothing, giving the wearer freedom.

    3.  Frankness or boldness; lack of modesty or reserve: the new freedom in movies and novels.

    4.   

    a.  The right to unrestricted use; full access: was given the freedom of their research facilities.

    b.  The right of enjoying all of the privileges of membership or citizenship: the freedom of the city.

    A right or the power to engage in certain actions without control or interference: “the seductive freedoms and excesses of the picaresque form” (John W. Aldridge). (Copied from http://www.answers.com/topic/freedom, with thanks)

    In the current age and western culture when young generation move out of their houses for education or work, they become free minded and finally free from any restrictions from their parents. If we look towards the Muslim young generation especially in educational institutes, we find that Muslim students don’t pray, they date, attend MSA meetings and go out dance and drink. Why is this happening?

    Because mostly have little knowledge about their religion and may be have forgotten the right rituals. To believe something on faith and concept of heaven or hell is far away from their thinking and reality and they have the question, “How do we know Islam is right anyway? “

    On the other hand, if we look into the European culture, this looks a lot more attractive where “Love and Romance” is supposedly everywhere. To date someone, have a friendship, going out, drinking and dancing, seeking pleasure are the thinkings of free minds.

    Sex in western culture is also often seen as a vice or a sin of the flesh. But even in religious Islam, sex is seen as natural. As long as it is in the right circumstances, when the two are committed to one another in marriage.

    How many of us think that this way of life and culture is part and parcel of our life or not?  

     

     

     

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    What it makes affect on my private life

    December 22nd, 2008

    Some of my friends have dating fun in their life and enjoy it. But when I ask them, ‘have they a diffrent tase’, they say, NO, then why it is your part of life? is my next question while you have a partner/wife also, they say, it is a satisfaction of those feelings which you are unable to expose in front of your partner or wife. Are they right? What is your idea?

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    Happy Christmas and New Year

    December 22nd, 2008

    Happy christmas to our Christian Fellows and New Year to every one in the world

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